"Happily Ever After" Is it True?

Relationships bring happiness and good bonding memories when the seed for love is cultivated and well taken care of. Happiness is made of different chain reactions of our everyday life but the most important happiness comes from relationships themselves, that’s because it brings up meaning into our lives and that thrive to succeed. Relationships could reach a strong meaning for a person when the cultivation to bond is done well. The factors for cultivating love are many in which not many couples get to accomplished. Relationships bring us memories and a feeling that we are loved and cared for which brings security and confidence our selves, leading into happiness.

            In our past time we have socialize with an estimate average of 15,000 individuals or more. Not all of them will occupy a space in our memories and even remember who they were. This is because we as human beings pick those persons that we find interesting and want to bond with, to get to know about each other personalities. Those who occupy that space in your memory could be family, friends but most of all loved ones that you have shared secrets with and know how you really are. Those relationships that relate with love bring a rush a need to do all crazy things with that person and a trust and so for enhance happiness and make good memories.

            Love as described by Helen Fisher an anthropologist studying why we love and cheat. Said “love was discovered to be the most important brain system in our minds”. Rather than emotion was a need a function in our mind that leads us to crave and want to love and that’s why we look out to be so picky when choosing who we bond with. As we try to enrich a relationship our minds start working like a processor following steps that would lead to love and maintaining it. First is the sexual drive which is the concentration of the person that attracts you nothing else but that desire that turns on the spark. Second the beginning of Romantic love obsession of early love this is when everything is happiness and sharing. The couple fill that urge to be together all time and they think it’s all but is just the beginning of what really will flourish from that cultivation. The third step the brain goes into is the most hardest and time taking. Is attachment is the system when after both have know their core self and know have to see if they can validate themselves. At this step the question is would I last with this person forever or plan a future.

            The failures of maintaining the seed of love is when a person falls in the categories of lust for pleasure, love conditionally, and mostly becoming a nihilist. The seed for love may sometimes flourish and fall or not even flourish at all. Due to pleasures that become more satisfying than looking at the core self of that person you with. Sometimes individuals lose the sense of what really love is and confuse with active sex. Sex makes that individual feel great and that he or she loves when at sex  but at the end of that day all that rush and sensation is gone because it’s been satisfied with sex and not with love for that person. Also some people confuse all what they can get when the person they are with can lead them to reach many things and even popularity. This makes those individual hunger to the materialism and satisfying pleasures of wanting more and more stuff and never indeed noticing the person they with. Unconditional love leads individuals into committing acts that they will regret in later time. Nihilist is when an individual follows their environmental society and does what others done and lives a relationship that is always synthesizing happiness from wealth and popularity but never from within and later in time it feels miserable and unhappy because there is no bond between them.

             The cultivation for the seed of love and the steps that it takes to irrigate it well and make it flourish are possible to accomplish but most of the time it fails. Of the many people we meet in our lives not all will be remember and not all will turn on the love brain system that been part of many societies around the world since the history as we know it. Cultivating a relationship is not an easy task that takes 1 or 2 months it goes further than the famous metaphor “And they lived happily forever”. It’s a function that works in our mind and affects the way we think and builds meaning to our lives. As relationships are build and made strong we could fail to maintain cultivating and lose all sense of who we are with and what we want. Confusing love with lust, materialism, and becoming a follower. Love will keep being that amazing system that we crave and go crazy for because we are human beings and will never stop learning from our mistakes.