Greatful of the things I have

Everyday of my daily life I complaint and complaint of how rutinary my life has been for the last 2 years. How is it that a person of my age can live only by school, work and home no fun at all right. Well i sat down and thought of the many things that work around me and make my life special. Actually i found out that im very fortunate to have these things because without them my life will really be messed up. Im thankful for having family union and love at my home and know that i can allways count with anything from my mom. I am thankful to have reach an education level at the highest of all my family the first one to have ever stepped in college, and learn new skills that will help me to survive life. Im thankful for my health and well being that not many others are furtunate of having. I feel lot greatful for the fact that at least i have a job that brings stability and that i have a safe place that i could call home. Most greatful for having something to eat at breakfast, lunch and dinner. Seeing how in other countries necesities are hard to reach I'm grateful that my parents have brought me to the United States and that i learned how to communicate in another language which has made me someone better.

"Happily Ever After" Is it True?

Relationships bring happiness and good bonding memories when the seed for love is cultivated and well taken care of. Happiness is made of different chain reactions of our everyday life but the most important happiness comes from relationships themselves, that’s because it brings up meaning into our lives and that thrive to succeed. Relationships could reach a strong meaning for a person when the cultivation to bond is done well. The factors for cultivating love are many in which not many couples get to accomplished. Relationships bring us memories and a feeling that we are loved and cared for which brings security and confidence our selves, leading into happiness.

            In our past time we have socialize with an estimate average of 15,000 individuals or more. Not all of them will occupy a space in our memories and even remember who they were. This is because we as human beings pick those persons that we find interesting and want to bond with, to get to know about each other personalities. Those who occupy that space in your memory could be family, friends but most of all loved ones that you have shared secrets with and know how you really are. Those relationships that relate with love bring a rush a need to do all crazy things with that person and a trust and so for enhance happiness and make good memories.

            Love as described by Helen Fisher an anthropologist studying why we love and cheat. Said “love was discovered to be the most important brain system in our minds”. Rather than emotion was a need a function in our mind that leads us to crave and want to love and that’s why we look out to be so picky when choosing who we bond with. As we try to enrich a relationship our minds start working like a processor following steps that would lead to love and maintaining it. First is the sexual drive which is the concentration of the person that attracts you nothing else but that desire that turns on the spark. Second the beginning of Romantic love obsession of early love this is when everything is happiness and sharing. The couple fill that urge to be together all time and they think it’s all but is just the beginning of what really will flourish from that cultivation. The third step the brain goes into is the most hardest and time taking. Is attachment is the system when after both have know their core self and know have to see if they can validate themselves. At this step the question is would I last with this person forever or plan a future.

            The failures of maintaining the seed of love is when a person falls in the categories of lust for pleasure, love conditionally, and mostly becoming a nihilist. The seed for love may sometimes flourish and fall or not even flourish at all. Due to pleasures that become more satisfying than looking at the core self of that person you with. Sometimes individuals lose the sense of what really love is and confuse with active sex. Sex makes that individual feel great and that he or she loves when at sex  but at the end of that day all that rush and sensation is gone because it’s been satisfied with sex and not with love for that person. Also some people confuse all what they can get when the person they are with can lead them to reach many things and even popularity. This makes those individual hunger to the materialism and satisfying pleasures of wanting more and more stuff and never indeed noticing the person they with. Unconditional love leads individuals into committing acts that they will regret in later time. Nihilist is when an individual follows their environmental society and does what others done and lives a relationship that is always synthesizing happiness from wealth and popularity but never from within and later in time it feels miserable and unhappy because there is no bond between them.

             The cultivation for the seed of love and the steps that it takes to irrigate it well and make it flourish are possible to accomplish but most of the time it fails. Of the many people we meet in our lives not all will be remember and not all will turn on the love brain system that been part of many societies around the world since the history as we know it. Cultivating a relationship is not an easy task that takes 1 or 2 months it goes further than the famous metaphor “And they lived happily forever”. It’s a function that works in our mind and affects the way we think and builds meaning to our lives. As relationships are build and made strong we could fail to maintain cultivating and lose all sense of who we are with and what we want. Confusing love with lust, materialism, and becoming a follower. Love will keep being that amazing system that we crave and go crazy for because we are human beings and will never stop learning from our mistakes.  

Happiness derives from relationships Blog#5

Happiness is made out of different things that make up our daily life but no happiness can be compared to the one delivered by loved ones. Happiness derived from love is to be ranked as one of the most specials happiness because it brings security and confidence. Not only romantic relationships play a part in making you happy. Friends and Family also take huge part in showing you who you really stand for and love you for what you are not for what you are and what you have. Also maintaining a good social communication makes you fit in and belong, not left to a side and ignore.

            As we grow we meet hundreds of people in our life but only certain are kept to be special. Either best friend or loved ones people that inject memories of happiness and good times. Relationships make us happy and bring a meaning for life sometimes but different confidence is delivered from either friends, family members or loved ones. At our childhood our most loved relationships is our parents because they bring confidence and trust as we grow. Parents guide us through our exploration of the world. Even as child’s we tend to love one parent more than the other in my case I preferred my mom she brought security and a feeling of help whenever I was in trouble.

            Later in life as we enter the teenage lifestyle we still are being cared and watch by our parents, but as you socialize with people around where you live or school. We start to focusing on blending in with the group or meeting someone that can be a best friend or expressing more than friendship. That’s when love starts to show itself on other rather than your parents and family. You feel the sensation of self security and trust with that person. We start to look up to what I learned in the book Happier by Tal Ben-Shahar the persons self core which is to look or what others look in our inner self. Our personality brings up the reasons we fall in love unconditionally or conditionally.

            At the moment we live our adulthood relationships have taught us love and pain which leave experiences. Happiness will not only be build on whether you become successful or not as human beings we need to be care of and fit in to a group of people. Other than romantic relationships and family we need to socialize with people that share the same thoughts and become great friends of us. Relationships like friend bring guide and fun experiences these are people that become holders of our secrets and people you feel comfortable to talk with. Socializing is a relationship that makes part of our life and builds up our personality and brings happiness of belonging somewhere.

            Relationships bring up most of our happiness in our lives because they are the meaning of life in most cases and are the fuel that drives us to success in life. Relationships fill our day with tasks and schedules to show care for them. Make us look into what we really like of that person seeing their core self and not their professions and materialism. Most important of all happiness is delivered thanks to the companionship and care that is shown mutually to each other and those important memories that are made of those moments.

Working For Happiness

            Trying to correlate a balance of happiness and work at the same time is something hard to accomplish. As for many of us when we hear the word work something goes inside of us that make us feel lazy, depress, or feel anxiety for the job we do. Working is not something we all  find  to be pleasure   in doing because there’s not a lot of fun at work. Jobs have to be done due to our currency need to survive and to satisfy our needs. The only way to be happy at work is to feel that you actually like being there and there is a good social communication. So that you as a person can fit in and feel great to what your tasks are.

            The word work as described in the book Happier by Tal Ben-Shahar , stems from the root of the Hebrew language as slave. Work has been carried since the beginning of our human survival skills. It’s looked upon something to have done rather than loved to do. Work is the way to survive and the only way we could reach currency. Currency satisfies the needs and pleasures that bring us joy and happiness. So for every dollar spend on something that’s going to make you happy there is hard work that had to be done to earn that dollar.

            To be earning happiness and good memories we must sometimes earn dollars. To do that we must work and try to think that that the work we doing is fun and in reality is not. Sometimes we foresee all the things we can get after earning our check and we just work for the need to satisfy those pleasures of life like going somewhere or buying something you was looking for. In my case when I’m a about to get paid my brain starts calculating what things I really want to buy and actually need that will make me happy.

            A famous Quote by Abraham Maslow “the most beautiful fate, the most wonderful good fortune that can happen to any human being, is to be paid for doing that which he passionately loves to do.” Education might be the lead to find those kinds of jobs that we look forward to having. Before you reach that dream job you will become an expert on many others like waiter, cashier, newspaper deliverer and it goes on. Jobs are a part of our daily life and the build ups of every person’s future whether you work hard or not will resemble you in the future. Those jobs that bring stress and anxiety and depression can be fun and enjoyable if several steps are taken.  Sometimes we could implement things like in my case at work I tend to talked to everyone at work and it feels like a team. When something is accomplished we all feel that we contributed to that success. When a costumer talks to me back in a good manner giving me good feedback just makes me feel great that I’m doing my job well.

                Happiness and work are two main goals for our everyday life. If work is not done then there is little chance that money will come your way and not be able to satisfy your needs and pleasures that bring joy. Work is not always the place that someone wants to be at sometimes we daydream at work wishing our day goes fast and that pay day comes to buy our things that synthesize happiness or make money an experience with the family. Our dream job is the goal to survive and do whatever it takes to get there. Making our boring jobs a little bit happy can make us feel contributed in the place or company we work at. In the future I will be proud of myself for accomplishing my goals and reaching that what I love to do and see back to what all kinds of jobs I did and what skills I learned as a worker that will lead me at success